Why Loving Yourself Isn’t Enough

You’ve heard it a thousand times—love yourself first.
And maybe you’ve tried.

You’ve read the books, repeated the affirmations, done the mirror work.
You’ve worked hard to accept yourself, heal your patterns, and raise your standards.

But somehow…
They still don’t choose you.
You still feel like you’re chasing, waiting, or being overlooked.
You keep attracting people who aren’t all the way in.

So what gives? Isn’t self-love the key?

Yes. But it’s only part of the story.

Why Self-Love Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Devotion

Self-love is a foundation.
But it’s not a magnet.

You can adore yourself, take yourself on solo dates, and write love letters to your inner child, and still attract unavailable, inconsistent, or avoidant energy.

Because here’s the truth no one talks about:

Your energy field—especially your nervous system—is what people actually respond to.

Not your affirmations.
Not your highlight reel.
Not even your “worthiness work.”

If your body doesn’t feel safe receiving love…
If your field is still carrying the imprint of betrayal, abandonment, or heartbreak…
If your system is still bracing for disappointment—
Then even the most grounded self-love won’t change the outcome.

Because energetically, you’re still guarded.
Still in defense mode.
Still signaling to love: not safe yet.

What Attracts Devotion Isn’t Just Self-Love. It’s Safety.

Real devotion—true, anchored, soulmate-level love—only shows up when your energy says,
"I trust this. I'm open. I'm ready to be met."

That kind of energy doesn’t come from thinking positive.
It comes from healing at the root level.

From clearing the old emotional residue you’re still carrying.
From regulating the part of you that flinches when someone gets too close.
From releasing the grief you never gave yourself time to process.

Devotion doesn’t just follow beauty, success, or confidence.
It follows calm.
Openness.
Presence.
It follows a field that feels clear enough to hold intimacy—and safe enough to stay.

How Do You Actually Shift Into That Energy?

Not through more mindset work. Not through performing “healed.”
But through deep energetic clearing.

In my CHOSEN sessions, we work with your energy field and subconscious to release the imprints that are blocking love from landing.

We help your nervous system unhook from past trauma, so your body stops confusing chaos with connection.
We dissolve walls, vows, and lingering fears that are subtly pushing love away.
And we do it gently, intuitively, and in alignment with your readiness.

Because when your field is calm and your system is open—
Love doesn’t feel hard anymore.
It flows in and holds you.
Just like you’ve always deserved.

Ready to Stop Trying So Hard and Start Receiving?

You don’t need to “try” to attract devotion.
You just need to become safe to receive it.

Let me help you get there.

💗 Book your CHOSEN session now and let’s clear what’s been standing between you and the love you’re already worthy of.

It’s time for devotion to feel natural.
And it starts by making your energy feel like home.